Life is Messy and Thats OK!
Life Is Messy—And That’s Okay
I know it sounds a little cliché, but lately, I’ve been catching myself smiling at how messy life can be. Not just for me—for all of us. The most beautiful thing about life is that it’s our mess that connects us.
Here we are in 2025 and I’m watching the news about the bushfires in Los Angeles. Even some of Hollywood’s biggest stars have lost everything. Sure, it might be their fifth house but it’s still a loss. It’s still painful. It’s proof that no amount of money can protect anyone from life’s chaos. Maybe that’s what “messy” really is—those moments when things just don’t go our way. Let’s be real, we all have days, weeks, or even years like that.
What does “messy” even look like? It might mean marrying someone who’s been married six times before. Or maybe you were in a relationship that lasted only a few months and now you’re pregnant. Maybe you have six kids, each with a different father. Maybe you absolutely love your job but struggle with being a mom, so you pour most of your energy into work. Maybe you’re questioning who you’re attracted to and feeling stuck in that uncertainty. Or maybe you’ve lost so many people that getting close to anyone feels impossible. You could even be dealing with the heartbreak of being disowned by your family and not knowing how to move forward.
Messy looks different for everyone but one thing is the same—it always comes with some kind of hurt.
So, who gets to decide what’s messy? Most people would say society or the “rules” we’re supposed to follow. But what if you were the only one who could define it? I truly believe that if we stopped labelling our mess and just accepted it, life would feel a lot easier. Acceptance is what separates deep lasting pain, from the kind of pain we can move through. So often, it’s our own expectations and fears that make our mess feel heavier than it needs to be.
Trust me, I’m no stranger to life’s messiness. However, looking back, I see now how it’s shaped me into the therapist I am today. In therapy, I don’t just listen—I see you. I see the real, raw, messy and vulnerable you. If you can’t see a way forward yet, thats ok because as a therapist I’ll hold that space for you until you do.
If you’re feeling like your life is too messy or you have no idea how to face it or move through it, please reach out. I’m here, ready to sit with you and walk beside you as we figure out a path forward. Together, we can turn that mess into something else- —a life that’s wonderfully messy and full of joy.